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Love. Sex. Energetics. The importance of discovering sexuality

Love. Sex. Energetics. The importance of discovering sexuality

Sexual energy is the foundation of human energy. That is one of the foundation postulates of Eastern philosophy of the universe. One who has not revealed his sexual individuality cannot fully express himself and will not become a harmonious and full-fledged person. And vice versa; constant suppression of sexual needs and sexual frustration can lead to some serious problems. Are you in doubts? So let us look into this matter.

Sexual energy as the foundation of human energy

Everything in the world is relative and only the laws of nature are absolute - claims Einstein`s theory of relativity, and that means that arguing with such laws is stupid, useless and dangerous. 

Firstly, nature occurs in energetics, and nowadays nobody considers this to be surprising.

This article will look into the energetics of a person and relationship between men and women. Everything that exists in our world is energy and a person carries a great amount of it. It is the soul, the essence, the fundamental formula of universe. For believers that is God. Everything is connected through a flow of energy: that is the essence of development, the life itself. And the basis of the energy of a man lies in what we call sexuality, that is, the sexual energy. And, in fact, this is one of the foundation postulates of Eastern philosophy of the universe, formed many centuries ago. And we will ground on this.

Sexuality is the manifestation of life, it is the nature itself. Such energy underlies the beginning of creativity, the strivings of a man to lead an active life and fulfil one`s expectations. One who has not revealed his sexual individuality cannot fully express himself and will not become a harmonious and full-fledged person. Suppression or restraining one`s sexuality leads to degradation.  A very serious inner conflict may arise in the very moment when you deliberately start oppressing your sexuality. This conflict is between one`s ego (consciousness) and energy. When you deny yourself fulfilment of natural desires, you stand up to the rules of nature, which cannot be won. 

“Amongst thousands of things created by the heaven, the man is the most important. Nothing from the things greatly honored by him can be compared to reproduction.  It imitates the heaven and models the earth, regulates yin and subdues yang. Those who understand these principles can nourish the nature and extend their lifespan. Those who do not understand the meaning of this bring harm on themselves and die before their time” – this is a thousand year old formulation of this conception by a Chinese wise man Dào Zàng. 

And this is not only a theoretical Eastern postulate. There are many recognized studies of well-known philosophers, researchers and medics who, form different points of views, have proved that suppressed sexuality has a bad influence on the psyche and physiology of a person, and as a result it influences the person on the whole. There is a very popular point of view, according to which the suppression of sexual energy looks for unusual ways of expression, inevitably leading to diseases and serous disorders. Energetics and physiology are closely connected. A wise saying from the East tells us that unfulfilled desires destroy one from the inside – and that really is so. Any competent psychologist will agree with this. 

Alchemy of ecstasy or the creative path of love

In Western countries the belief that women need love but men need just sex is very common; however it makes no sense if we look into this matter from the point of view of Eastern energetic conception. Such contradiction is absurd in sensual and honest relationship; and that is the relationship we discuss. 

Love as an energetic expression is absolute. No wonder that feelings and sexual desires are beyond our control. Sex is the nature of our existence, with its roots deep in us; sex is the very essence of life. 

As mentioned before, a person should strive to be full of energy, reveal this energy, instead of suppressing it in himself. Feelings and desires are of a great value and natural, and following these desires intuitively is the main art of a fulfilling life. Being natural and relaxed, means being oneself. This is one of the basic principles of the East, which is very important for sexual energy.  One should not limit oneself in terms of love; one should seek love and respond to the call of nature. Last century Osho discussed this issue a lot, he spoke about freedom and creativity in love and about the harm caused by prejudices and conventions.

“Each person should cultivate a creative attitude in order to successfully advance the path of love… The creative attitude puts us in touch with the source of our being and endows us with a limitless capacity for evolution. … In the area … of sexuality there are many barriers to be overcome. A creative attitude works wonders in eliminating doubts or uncertainty, while at the same time acting as a potent virilific. … Independence from habits in the area of sexuality should be cultivated, as sexual habits are the most restrictive… All Eastern teachings on the sexual mysteries point out to the need for variety and uninhabited spontaneity.”

This is a quote from the book The Alchemy of Ecstasy by Nik Douglas and Penny Slinger – a unique book which generalize the Eastern outlook on sexuality. Much has been said with this. All that is left to do is to perceive everything thoughtfully. 

A man and a woman. Energy of intimacy

Of course, relationship between men and women consist not only from sex, and sex is not always the most important in family life. People who love each other have many things in common. Yet the significance of sex cannot be compared with anything else. This is a fact proved by statistics, and this conclusion has been confirmed by numerous studies carried out in developed countries. You can get acquainted with the main conclusions of these studies in the article "The main marital treasure." Nowadays the main reason for divorce is sexual dissatisfaction. This fact cannot be denied, and this is not only a physiological matter, however one cannot escape this issue as well. The thing is that the exchange between the energy of a man and a woman occurs while having sex. And if sex dies, it means that this relationship is coming to an end, even if the man and women do not realize it. That is, the relationship is energetically exhausted. Such people can remain friends, partners or spouses if they choose to, but they give each other a very small amount of energy. This means only one. They no longer evolve as they could have. The existing potential is not put into practice. To some extent it may be assumed that these two people steal each other`s energy. This refers to the case if both partners are sexually faithful in terms of sexual relationship, which does not exist, or is not sufficient. As nowadays selfishness is considered the most important, and few people are held back by morals, virtues or traditions, then having lost the natural factor of attraction, many couples tend to break up. 

This is on principle and it is of great importance. When sex begins to fade away, relationship tends to come to an end. This is not what both partners need, and most importantly the man. That is his nature. Such relationship may continue and even partly develop, however that will not be “the real thing” and the responsibility of this lies on the woman, she is the first to understand, for the woman is the initiator of sex – this is the way nature works.

The woman as the carrier of sexual energy

Yes – this is the Eastern belief. The woman is the one who lights the fire of sexual energy. Her initiating role in this area is a dogma. The woman calls, provokes and lures, and the man responds to this call. She can do this absolutely unconsciously, however it is true. The instinctive desire of women to be liked by men is from the same field. Thereby the Eastern energy approach states that inciting the desire of men is the responsibility of women. If a man does not desire the woman anymore, it is her own fault. Whether feminists like it or not, but the West has not opposed to such understanding of matters. 

Nowadays the beginning of feminine is widely discussed in words and writings, about what it is, its main task, how to formulate it and how to reveal it. Actually everything is rather easy. First of all, it is feminine sexual energy. The woman carries this energy and the man needs it. He needs it and gains it through sex. Firstly, through sex, and if he cannot gain this energy from his partner then he is drawn to other women. And that is not “immoral” – it is the law of energy exchange.  There are no mysteries, no morals. Knowing how to make love for a woman means knowing how to share the feminine energy. Loving sex means following the rules of nature. 

Of course, there are women who are not keen on sex; many have difficulties reaching an orgasm. Not all consider sex to be the greatest pleasure in life, however this is a different question, yet this does not change the essence of the topic, laws of nature remain laws of nature and that is what we are discussing. 

Love and sex cannot be separated

There is no place for morals in the world of energetics. There might be uplift and development, or decline and weakening. This world is unaware of society, church of morality. Human laws, regulations, customs and traditions do not mean anything. A woman was created for love and love is her primary mission, and love is energy, pleasure and sex. Pleasure is as an inducement and reward for following the laws of nature. 

Realizing the unity of sex and love is the one and only sexual culture of a woman. Sex is an integral part of love. If we mean a really deep feminine, then a woman should love a man at the moment when having sex with him. This is the very peak of mastery of a real woman – the ability to genuinely enjoy being one wholesome with a man, if she has happened to share a bed with him, where the call of her nature had lead her. For such woman loving her nature means loving the man in whose arms she lies. Love – the feeling that is being tested at this very moment. Love cannot be measured in time or space, love is free from conventions and obligations, it does not depend on anything. It is pure energy, self-sufficient and priceless. Always and in every single moment. 

The state of love or being in love, even in its initial call is like a breeze of energy. There is the possibility of real self-realization, as a person has the greatest boost of energy in the state of love. 

We were not the ones who created this world, and we may only properly use what was given to us. The state of harmony with the world can be formulated as “willingness to fall in love and love.

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